Self-esteem is one of the most important foundations for building your personality and your relationship with yourself. Without a good level of self-esteem, you become shackled in a state of weakness and lack of confidence in yourself.
Your perception of yourself is one of the most important foundations of psychological development in forming your personality. Esteem depends on mental functions that strengthen your sense of the importance of your life, the value of your existence, and your knowledge of your own identity.
Increasing self-esteem leads your mind to push you to care for your health, to think about the importance of achieving your goals, and to rely on yourself.
People who value themselves are more energetic, active and persistent in their lives, and bolder in making decisions. A person who values themselves does not stop at people's objections or dwell on negative expectations.
Many studies indicate that self-esteem affects the nature of your personality, how you see yourself and how you see society. Self-esteem develops your relationship with yourself, builds your psychological energy, and increases your determination and readiness to work.
When you begin turning your attention to your relationship with yourself, start by focusing on what your inner voice says about you.
Notice the critical or objecting voice. If your self-talk and the words you use direct negative criticism at you, it means you see yourself as:
a negative person, and the vocabulary of blame and projection stirs negative concepts about your behavior and reactions.
People who value themselves do not dwell on their mistakes. They keep trying and working for years until they reach their goals, they focus on developing their mental capacity to learn the behaviors that help them, and they do not care about people's negative opinions.
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If you have begun the journey of valuing yourself, start shaping the language of your conversation and dialogue with yourself, and learn to write scripts that help you choose:
- Your comments on your behavior
- Your objections to your habits
- Giving positive instructions
- Speaking about your understanding of what you do
- Your health and your healthy habits
- Your expression of your personality through positive communication
- Your view that you have an important role in your relationships
- You are an important value in life
- You are an important value in society
- You are a useful person at your work
- You have skills that deliver results
- Nothing diminishes your value
- No one decides your opinions for you
- No negative opinion affects your self-esteem
- You are a human energy that carries out its tasks with excellence
Facing the Critic Within You:
Decide to face this critic who seeks to defeat you, and give it a name that helps you confront it (the Objector, the Opponent…). Practice the technique of visualizing the critical side, which forms part of your perception, and begin talking to it. Picture yourself confident, facing it with strength, and say:- I am aware of my actions
- My intentions are always positive
- I choose my actions consciously
- I decide on feelings of self-forgiveness and love for myself
- I decide how to choose my thoughts
- Everything I say to myself is for the sake of my priorities
Creating a Supportive Mindset:
Instead of surrendering to the critic, begin building a supportive voice and mental system for yourself, and over time the negative voice will weaken.- Strengthen your reliance on yourself, hold yourself responsible for choosing what you do and what happens, and speak about your wish to focus on the details and shape of your personality.
- Speak about not fearing rejection, about your ability to do without harmful relationships, and about expressing your feelings freely.
- Speak about your feelings and their importance, and about your ability to release your emotions whenever you wish.
- Continually strengthen your sense of inner safety, whatever the circumstances or reality.
- Make your feeling of safety part of the inner sense that accompanies you throughout the day.
- Speak about accepting the causes of your anxiety and having a solution in case of any surprise.
- Decide to observe your behavior and to be part of changing it. Accept your mistakes and express your intention to move past them.
- Decide to care about how you see yourself, and picture the strengths of your personality every day.
Build Concepts with the Motivation to Develop Them:
- Speak about your acceptance of your physical appearance, your height and weight and your features, and about the beauty of how you were created.
- Speak about the blessing of your existence, that the Creator, glory be to Him, has favored you in life, and that your existence has a great purpose.
- Decide to focus on increasing your role or roles in life, and double your determination to fulfil your role and change your habits.
- Hold yourself responsible for caring and taking initiative, and adopt beliefs that affirm your independence from others in choosing all your actions.
- Adopt beliefs that affirm the importance of your presence among people, your relationships, your readiness to connect, and your choice of the nature of your ties:
- Close people – friends
- More distant people – public relations
- Partners and colleagues, intimacy and love
- Focus on your role in society through your project or volunteer work
- Always reinforce your actions and honor your communication and your help to people, and consider them an essential part of your personality
- Encourage yourself to let go of negative people, however close they are to you
- Free yourself from feelings of shyness and fear of losing anyone, and decide to rely on strengthening your sense of psychological safety
- Speak frankly and courageously about your negative traits and accept them, so as not to turn them into weaknesses, and decide to change them into positive traits
- Practice gratitude and thankfulness for your existence in life, and thank the Creator, glory be to Him, for learning and for your positive traits
- Be mentally present with people, especially when they criticize your behavior, and strengthen your belief that their opinions of you are not your concern
- Focus on increasing your moral value and free yourself from the insistence of the critic within you and its objection to or criticism of people's behavior
- Focus on emptying your mind of thoughts that bring no benefit to your personality or your life
