Dealing with your child is a daily challenge, and although it is a positive challenge, it is still a challenge. Some children are more challenging than others and less responsive to following rules. Dr. Bill Sears, the well-known pediatrician and author of many books on child care, calls these children "difficult-temperament children" or "high-need children." Dr. Bill says that living with and raising this kind of child is a challenge. But the reassuring part is that if parents discover the difficult traits in their child early and work to guide them rationally and properly, these difficult traits, which put the child in trouble at present, may later become beneficial to him. Every child takes on temperament traits from his parents and deals with them accordingly, and these children make up a small share of all children.
Dr. Bill says: "Your child's temperament is his personal behavior, and it is what explains his actions. There is no 'good' temperament or 'bad' temperament; it is simply temperament. Some temperaments are more challenging for parents than others, but the way these children are raised can determine whether these difficult traits will ultimately be an asset to the child or a harm to him." A high-need child does not mean that he will always take while the parents always give. Caring for a high-need child makes him later a giving person, because the more a person gives, the more he receives. When you give your child the upbringing that suits his particular requirements, you will gain skills you did not have before, and you will also gain a cooperative child. You cannot choose your child's temperament or abilities, but you can choose the approach by which you meet his needs. In this way you will enrich your life and your child's life with good relationships, and you will make better gains in some points that you should keep in mind.
