A child with many needs must release their excess energy and overflowing feelings through sport or any physical activity. Give them plenty of opportunities for physical play, outside the home if possible, and encourage them to channel their energy into riding a bike or running. If you cannot go out, play some songs and let them dance and move around, any way that helps them release their excess energy.
When parents want to discover their child's talents and help them show their wishes, it makes the child able to succeed. By encouraging them to learn skills or pursue a hobby, such as a particular sport or creativity in drawing and the arts, their excellence shows. Do not threaten them with the consequences of not succeeding. Recognize the situations they cannot handle. For example, if they do not succeed in their hobby, it is better to accept their reaction and behavior around that talent.
Children with a difficult temperament often disturb their parents and choose the wrong moment. This can be avoided from the start by paying attention to their hints before they begin disturbing you during your phone calls. You can keep them busy with something useful. Try occupying them with an entertaining documentary or a book, or you can change the time of your own commitments and free yourself to connect with the child, in order to give them the attention they need.
Of course, working with a child is not about perfection. We all make mistakes. The daily balance a mother must keep, caring for the home, responding to the family's requests and communicating with the children, is enough, and it is a burden on the mother, especially if she also works. Having the patience needed to raise her children, and the difficulty of the effort, is nothing more than that. Soon our children will grow up and take part in society, they will marry, and they themselves will become fathers or mothers. Doesn't all of that deserve us giving our utmost to provide the best possible care? By giving your child all the necessary care early, you will gain skills you did not have before, and you will bring out the best in yourself and the best in your child...
It is hard to tell apart a "difficult" child in an ordinary way from one who is "difficult" in a special way. Parents commonly describe a child who throws things on the floor, refuses to obey orders and is rebellious as a "difficult" child. But the especially difficult child is the one whose behavior goes further than the average child's. They are more prone to explosive anger, negativity and strange behavior.
In most cases, the especially difficult child was also difficult as an infant. Their way of crying was more anxious than other babies', and they were hard to handle as a newborn. When the mother and father do not respond to the child's needs, this reinforces and develops the child's difficulty, and it continues even after they become a young adult.
Knowing why your child is difficult may help you recognize their problems and think about starting to overcome them. Knowing that there are many difficult children like yours also lets you see the similarity in needs and in the effort every parent makes.
The traits that distinguish difficult children cannot be regarded as abnormal or negative. The characteristics of a child that push parents to the point of emotional reaction begin when parents do not recognize the needs behind the child's behavior. If you understand their behavior and know it according to their needs, their activity often becomes useful and turns into taking responsibility for their duties and difficulties, and into success in life when they become a young adult.
