Some people think confrontation is painful. Yes, it may be painful at the start, but it is important for you. Confrontation matters because it addresses all the conflict you are suffering inside, and it makes you aware of a reality that was hidden from you. What matters is that the confrontation is done properly. What matters in a confrontation is its purpose: if the purpose is positive, the relationship can be mended, and if the confrontation is negative, the relationship will of course not be mended.
What matters is that you want the relationship to continue after the confrontation, and that during the confrontation we keep our focus on the positive. Before the confrontation, you must be psychologically prepared, in a clear mental state, with calm feelings, so that the confrontation does not turn negative. Confrontation means your readiness to listen, and so it gives the other party a chance. What matters is that you are settled within yourself in order to find a solution in your dialogue with the other party, and that you are willing to make some concessions during the dialogue. Concessions are a compromise acceptable to both sides.
When you make concessions, it does not mean you are giving up your right. It means you are preserving your place in a relationship with someone you love deep down. One of the important motives for making concessions is the aim of staying with someone you love. Anger may be what prevents you from loving and conceding. Anger may lead you to lose the relationship, even if your anger has its reasons. Yet the relationship is more important than the reasons, and you are more important than the anger, because you will win the love of the person you love.
Confrontation matters for you mainly in order to get rid of negative feelings and to start anew. Do your utmost to free yourself from your emotional reaction during the confrontation until you reach a result.
