We usually give advice to other people, and the way advice is phrased is what makes it acceptable; if the advice takes the form of blame or reproach, people reject it.
Just as you advise people, including those close to you, begin advising yourself. The more carefully you prepare your advice, the more useful it actually is to you.
Advice has conditions, and the advice you give yourself is no different from the advice you give others.
What matters in your advice is that it contains sentences that motivate and encourage you, rather than sentences that scold, blame or point to your shortcomings. Examples of self-advice sentences:
- It is better for me to do such-and-such, because it achieves for me .......
- Choosing the right behavior strengthens the joy of agreement.
- I know that I choose the positive behavior.
- I can communicate in a better way.
- I know how to act in the moment.
- I choose the appropriate reply.
- Pay attention to your feelings toward yourself.
- Notice the actions you take automatically.
